Change Your Habits, Change your life!
This piece has been written for our Shine Blog by Life Coach - Stacy Murphy
Do you ever feel like you’re doing
things against your own better judgement?
Like you’re sick of making the choices you keep making? Smoking,
drinking, drugs, binge eating; choices keeping you stuck where you are rather
than where you’d like to be?
Do you get annoyed at yourself
afterwards – why did I do that AGAIN?
It can feel like two different
versions of you: one wanting change, one clinging to old habits.
Sound familiar?
This is actually great news. It means a part of you wants to change.
Here are 5 ways to help this part
of you get stronger – change your habits, change your life!
1. Small hinges swing big doors. Choose ONE thing you want to change and start
there. When you have that nailed move on
to the next.
2. Get clear on ‘who’ you want to be. Write it down
(don’t skip this part!). Think ‘if I
were that version of myself right now what choice would I make?’. Every choice
is like casting a vote for who you want to be. Who are you voting for today?
3. Consciously choose your surroundings. Is your
fridge full of beer? Do you have a full biscuit tin? Who and what is on your
social media? In your news feed? There is a saying ‘energy flows where
attention goes’. Set yourself up for
success by consciously choosing positive reminders of who you’re choosing to
become, and remove reminders of habits you’re choosing to leave behind.
4. Ride the wave, kill the monster. Just like a
wave, cravings start small, get bigger, peak, then fade. Just like scratching
an itch makes it worse, feeding a craving will guarantee it comes back
stronger. In his book ‘The Only Way to Stop Smoking’, Alan Carr describes
cravings like having a monster in your body.
The only way to get rid of it is to stop feeding it. It will cry, it will get angry and it will
fight for survival but feed it and it will get bigger and stronger. Instead
choose to ride the wave. Sit with a
craving and really pay attention to how it feels. Is it painful? No.
Uncomfortable? Probably. You can do uncomfortable, and like the wave it WILL
fade. Kill the monster and you’re free forever.
5. Make a ‘new habits’ menu. Making a list helps
you remember all the habits you want to choose instead. Sing full volume to an
inspirational song, get out for a walk or run in nature, do a workout, call a
friend. Create a menu of new habits,
make your choice, and just do it!
Most important of all is to be
kind to yourself.
If you make a choice that you
later regret don’t judge or be hard on yourself. Instead get curious about what
could help you choose differently next time. Lasting change takes time, but the
only way you can fail is if you stop trying.
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