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Don't be hard on yourself............

  I have been living with anger all my life, I think many people do without realising. However with some people, me included, it is deep rooted and hidden, and can  affect lives in profound ways if we refuse to address it and understand its origins. I have only recently discovered how being angry can impact how I feel, and how that can affect how things turn out, positively or negatively. I never used to get angry, very rarely. In fact I used to quietly envy people that seemed to be able to vent their emotions and saw it as a part of being confident. I think I was confusing passion with anger to some extent. It is possible to have a passion without being angry. When we realise the benefits of our passions and interests then we often defend them strongly if need be. I think that is when a wider interest comes into play, and we are aware that what we do and enjoy has a positive effect on wellbeing, ours and the people around us. When I was hospitalised in 2002 with psychosis. I ...
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Wanting to join a CIC?

  This is an exciting opportunity for life coaches;   we are looking to expand our energetic and inspiring team, we are looking for more dedicated life coaches to work with our clients. At Shine Coaching we offer men who experience anger and conflict in their lives one-to-one coaching over the phone with their own life coach.   We offer goal-oriented, practical solutions for men to recognise & reduce anger and conflict and, as a result, improve their mental health and wellbeing.  We work with our clients to develop practical solutions which help them to understand themselves and make changes.   As a small CIC reliant on external funding we have expanded this last year & have taken on many new freelancers and volunteers in a number of roles; we are now expanding further.   Things are changing fast for us, we are a creative and dynamic team and we would welcome people to work with us who wants to work within the voluntary sector. Please take a l...
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Do you ever feel like you’re doing things against your own better judgement?

This piece has been written for our Shine Blog by Life Coach - Stacy Murphy  Do you ever feel like you’re doing things against your own better judgement?  Like you’re sick of making the choices you keep making? Smoking, drinking, drugs, binge eating; choices keeping you stuck where you are rather than where you’d like to be? Do you get annoyed at yourself afterwards – why did I do that AGAIN? It can feel like two different versions of you: one wanting change, one clinging to old habits.  Sound familiar? This is actually great news.  It means a part of you wants to change.  Here are 5 ways to help this part of you get stronger – change your habits, change your life! 1.    Small hinges swing big doors.  Choose ONE thing you want to change and start there.  When you have that nailed move on to the next.  2.   Get clear on ‘who’ you want to be. Write it down (don’t skip this part!).  Thi...
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Ecotherapy – Healing is Green

  Ecotherapy – Healing is Green Mankind’s relationship with nature is a long and tumultuous one. For millennia, we were one and the same, a symbiotic relationship where we would give and take in equilibrium. However, as man evolved, as did its greed for more -  more food, more space, more dominion. The transition from co-dependency to co-destruction culminated during the industrial revolution, with man and nature becoming separate entities entirely. Nature was, at this point, merely a resource for humans. Fast forward to the present day and we can see nature fighting back. From 1900 to 2000, the human population increased four-fold, from 1.6 billion to 6 billion. In 21 years, this has risen by another 1.6 billion, and the problems of this growth and expansion are becoming ever clearer. Climate change, natural disasters, Covid-19 – nature simply cannot cope with the strain we are putting on it. What’s more, humans are not thriving as expected. Mental health concerns continue to...
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Self Discovery ....

Wanting to try coaching, but not sure what to expect? Here's what one of our clients has to say... I found my first session helpful as it was a bit of a self discovery lesson. I had to write down things that I valued about myself which I don't like doing or even like talking about myself. I found that asking someone else what they saw in me was a lot easier and they saw qualities in me that I didn't. I found this quite emotional knowing that I wasn't useless and I actually have a purpose to many. In the following weeks I had several "tasks" to complete, including, writing down my core values, learning anchoring and 5,4,3,2,1 techniques. I have found different phrases to help in some situations such as "is this way I'm feeling of any use to me" also " don't give certain people (who aren't helping me) a seat at my table. The anchoring technique is very helpful and is now second nature. From my chats with Caroline we've worked out t...
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"At the very beginning of my coaching I didn't know what to expect at all"

    "At the very beginning of my coaching I didn't know what to expect at all . I was not somebody that talked to people about my feelings, worries and memories. I bottled everything up and dealt with it all the wrong way.  After my first one to one session I could feel a difference in my mind and how this could turn out. Once I had my second session I was so comfortable talking to my coach who was so professional in every way possible and so friendly at the same time.  She helped me get through certain periods in my life, just talking to her  and listening to what she had to say gave me a new way of living and understanding how to deal with certain matters in so many different ways instead of just the anger coming through.  I can honestly say the coaching has helped shape me to become a better person and see things so differently  I didn't even know I could . My coaching sessions felt like I was just talking to a friend and that helped i...
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June Unity Walk with Talk Ourselves Well

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Great turn out walking in nature with friends and family, with Talk Ourselves Well  We would love you to join us soon, 3.5 miles from Darwen to Tockholes and back.  #shinecoaching  
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